Monday, January 21, 2013

To Explain @ to Ask is Not Rude

One of the reasons I write blog is because, in real life most of the time we just didn’t got chance, or be given chance to explain what we do, while we actually think a lot of things in our mind. Of course we need to express only ideas that didn’t give harm to others’ feelings or the logical, reasonable one only. After all what’s our point to give thoughts that will turn useless?

I also used to write blogs before. That was some previous years before. But maybe this time a bit difference from my previous blogs which I already deleted them for some personal reasons. Age might be the main factor that contributes to the changes.  :p

By being not to put blame on our society, I think it is just a TREND that some people will think that we are rude when we answer people or when we ask too much things that we would like to know. (of course, jgnlah kita tanya soalan yg boleh buatkan org rasa sensitif, kann..) The problem we can see when among local university’s students (I used uni example, because that’s what I am in now), not all but mostly students refuse to ask or answer lecturer’s question during class discussion. The reason is because they afraid that they might giving the wrong answers! But, actually it is NO WRONG to give the WRONG ANSWERS because we are in the learning processes.

We don’t directly run right after we born. Do you? We learn things steps by steps. From just lying on our back to trying to turn our body to right/left side, then we managed to lie on our chest, then we learn to strengthen our hands and legs, wanting to crawl, then we managed to crawl slowly, then we learn to sit on our own, months by months, then we learn to stand, walk, runs and etc. It’s a learning process. We may fell down and failed many times in our attempts in each steps, but we still keeping our effort! So do not afraid to make unintentionally mistakes but do mend the mistakes back after we know which part that we did it wrongly!

A baby is socially constructed by the environment that she/he lived in. How people treat, how people react to her/him made up how she/he reacts back to people around him/her. This also affecting the way she/he will thinks. As Malay proverb says: melentur buluh biarlah dari rebungnya. A kid that always being tortured, without knowing her/his fault will grow up being a problematic kid.

Back to main idea, only a person, who feels the other person that asks/explains beyond their ego, will conclude that the particular person is rude. To stabilize and to avoid these kinds of situation, have a good manner while asking/explaining. Be positive in accepting others’ ideas. All the best in life <3 ~!

I’m in a learning process as well, and will always be!

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